Hello:

Well, today I had a new experience. I went to a friends cremation. It was interesting as I went up I found my self going through different emotions and not knowing how to react. I walked in and they had the viewing. He looked good considering the situation and the family seemed pleased. We watched as he went into the oven and then we left for a few hours. I couldn’t help but, think I should have been taking photos and at the same time feeling that it wasn’t appropriate. I think one of the family members took a few photos but, put his camera away as the body went into the oven. I felt the whole thing was very dignified & now the family has something to remember him that they can bring home.

I wonder if there is a good way to ask about doing photos in a situation like that? Is that best kept for immediate family? What are the rules of engagement in a situation like that? I am sure that my friend that died would not mind photos but, he wasn’t there to ask! I guess if anyone has input I would be interested in knowing! I also realize that we don’t have to photograph everything! Those are just moments that can never be re-captured.

Thanks, I hope to hear from you soon!

Bill